Brave Hearts Guideline

Course Duration:

8-week program. Meeting times will be once a week for 1 hour and 45 minutes, preferably accompanied by a discipler.

Objective:

To support the church’s vision of helping disciples deepen their relationship with God by working through past or current trauma, abuse, hurt, grief and/or sin. This will be done with a series of quiet times, weekly discipling groups, journal assignments related to each week, and mentor accountability. The outcome will result in healed disciples being more effective for God.

Expectations:

1.All disciples involved are to commit to the meeting times, quiet time packets, any additional homework prescribed, and complete openness and honesty. All assignments should be completed by the subsequent meeting.

2.Brave Heart is not meant to replace weekly discipling times. It also does not replace any professional help (medical, psychological, and the like). Disciples are still expected to partake in daily evangelism, all meetings of the body, Bible studies, and any other ministry. Additionally, if a disciple is seeking professional help during the course, they must continue to do so.

3.Vulnerability is a key component in spiritual and emotional growth. The disciples involved will share their lives with no fear of judgment or shame. Anything that a disciple shares vulnerably is to be treated with great love and respect. With courtesy to others, what is shared in Brave Hearts Class will not be recorded or shared with any person, social media platform, or other forms of communication.

4.All disciples involved with Brave Hearts will receive discipling from each other. Any discipling given is to be done out of love and not criticism. Any discipling received will be embraced with great humility and is to be applied to the disciple’s life. This will help each person heal and grow.

Brave Hearts Guidelines

1.This is a ministry. Not a replacement for any type of professional help. Participants must be currently committed to healing (ex. No longer abusing your body in any way, if a therapist has instructions--it must be followed, etc.)

2.Be early to class. The class will start on time and it will end on time.

3.Always bring your Bible, journal, completed quiet time packet, pen, and paper. You will be held accountable for the homework weekly.

4.There is no comforting one another during the group. Do not hand them a tissue, hug them, or place your hand on them. This distracts from the feeling and interrupts a crucial moment in the healing process.

5.After the journal is read the group gives feedback. Feedback consists of relating to what you heard, followed by giving constructive feedback and discipling using the scriptures. The person that read will remain silent during this time and will be given an opportunity to respond after all the feedback has been given.

6.There is no talking across the group back and forth. There are specific times for speaking and listening. Write down any questions you may have and speak with the Brave Hearts leaders before or after the group.

7.Finally, Brave Hearts is a confidential meeting. You may share your experience and/or the details of your journal but never share the details of someone else’s journal.

1.During virtual meetings, please use headphones on your computer to keep the confidentiality of the meeting, if you do not have headphones please let us know.

2.Follow Video chat etiquette: mics are mute if you are not speaking and cameras are on.

Journal Guidelines

Journal: Write a handwritten account of every time (whether large or small, significant or insignificant, before and after baptism) you can remember being hurt, abused, traumatized, or experienced grief. Do not purposely leave out anything that you remember.

Weekly Journal: After you read your Journal, you will receive discipling and direction on any rewrites. Following this, as you pursue the quiet times you will also have reflection questions that you can use to help your journaling process. The weekly journals will be shared in each session and discipling will be given.

What’s not in a journal

1.A story. You want to keep the journal as focused on the times and events you were hurt. Extra details will take away from the healing process.

2.No blame-shifting. Take responsibility.

3.No Justifying. Take responsibility.

4.No Victimization. Take responsibility.

Journal Feedback

After the journal is read, feedback is given from everyone in the group. Feedback will follow the R.E.D (Relate-Encourage-Disciple) format. We are to relate with the experience someone went through. Encourage and disciple the heart with scriptures. All feedback is to follow this format and must include scriptures. Everyone is expected to participate. It’s unloving to hold back our hearts from each other, especially when giving and receiving feedback.